Are you setting yourself up for failure?

The Process of Goal Setting

So as usual with the turning of the new year, it inevitably leads us to thinking about a fresh start. It is a chance to start again with a blank sheet of paper. Forget what happened last year and focus on making this one better. Or that is what we are all programmed to think.

I am sure you have heard plenty of people over the past few days talking about their New Years Resolutions; what big plans they have for this year ahead, you have probably thought about and made some for yourself too. But I bet you haven’t heard or thought about how they are going to be achieved? This is where the problem lies, when in a few days, weeks, months, these resolutions which were made with the best intentions fall by the wayside.

You may have the destination in mind, but unfortunately if you don’t have a map of how to get there then chances are you will never end up leaving the same spot, or just end up somewhere completely different.

Runyon Canyon. Los Angeles

I don’t want this to happen to you. So let’s try and help these resolutions come true this year!

1) Write them down
I am big on goal setting, I try and set them daily, weekly, monthly and even yearly. My Passion Planner has been a major contributor towards helping me do this. Writing things down makes them seem all the more real and concrete. So that is the place to start. Get a pen and paper and write them down.

2) Make them SMART
This second point is perhaps the most important. Some of you may have seen of heard about SMART goals, but have you truly used the acronym yourself when setting goals or resolutions for yourself? Let’s have a look at what each letter stands for and how to relate it to a goal which is pretty popular this time of year. “This year I will get fit.”

S = SPECIFIC
The above goal is so vague. There is no real goal within that statement. So instead how are you going to get fit? Are you going to start going to the gym, pick up running, join a dance class? Are you going to join the gym near your house or work? Which class are you going to start? Is there a running club you can join?
“This year I am going to go to start going to the gym twice a week.”

M = MEASUREABLE
There are a few ways to measure fitness, but you need to choose how you want to personally measure it. This could be body measurements, body fat %, how fast you run a 5km, how much weight you can lift in the gym etc,
“This year I am going to start going to the gym twice a week in an effort to improve my 10km running time by 5 minutes.”

A = ATTAINABLE
If you have never ran before in your life, is it realistic to think that you are going to be able to dedicate yourself to a running 5 times a week at 6am before work? I would hazard a guess that you would do really well at this for a week before finding excuses, 6 times a week becomes 5, 5 becomes 3 and before you know it you don’t even bother setting your alarm any more. Rather than doing this, start small. Choose a manageable target, if it becomes easy you can always increase it as time goes by.

R = RELEVANT
Is your goal actually relevant to your life, is getting fit going to benefit you and those close to you?

T = TIME BASED
If it is a 2017 resolution, this could mean you reassess at the end of the year. However you could set yourself smaller targets to hit throughout the year to ensure that you are remaining on track towards the greater goal.
“This year I am going to start going to the gym in order to improve my 10km running time. I am going to test my time every 3 months throughout the year.

Passion Planner

3) Find your why.
This is a tough one. Why do you want to achieve your goal? Why is it important to you? How will it impact your life when you do so? Do you want to get fitter, and improve your running time in order to improve your health? Is there a race which you want to compete in? Do you want to improve your cardio health so that you can keep up with your kids when playing in the garden or having a kick about with your mates in the park. Find your why, and then whenever things get tough, think back to it and remember why you are doing what you are doing. I guarantee you will be less inclined to give up.

4) Be accountable.
If nobody knows what you are trying to do, then nobody will know if you skip the gym today will they? Find somebody to answer to and let them in on what you want to do and why. This could be your better half, a friend, somebody at work; but become accountable. You will be less inclined to hit that snooze button if you have to let somebody down by doing so.


So what are my goals? I have a lot this year. But here are just a couple to try and inspire you.

I want to grow my blog subscribers to X number of people by the end of June. I want to reach and help more people with their health and fitness. To do this I am going to increase how often I post as well as the quality of my content. This means that for the month of January I am going to post a blog every single day and then I will do at least 2 posts per week.

1) It is written down here for everyone to see, as well as in my Passion Planner. 
2)It is a SMART goal: It is specific – rather than just say ‘grow my social media’ I have narrowed it down to my blog and website in particular.
It is measurable – I have a certain number of subscribers in mind.
It is attainable – I believe I have the time and material to come up a post for every single day.
It is relevant – growing my blog will benefit my business as a whole in my opinion.
It is time framed – I have set myself the target to reach by the end of June.

3) My why is that I want to help more people with their health and fitness. I believe that I have the knowledge to share to improve a lot of lives. But if I only impact one person with what I know then I will be happy and I will have done my job.

4) Be accountable. I have know committed to posting every day on here so I am accountable to my readers. My sister also knows where I want my business to grow to in the future so I am sure will be checking in with how I am doing!

Abbot Kinney, Wall art

I want to take better care of myself. I need to do this to feel good about myself but also ensure that I am fit and healthy in order to deliver my best self for my business, my family and my friends. I will do this by having regular nail appointments with Katie. I will have a massage at least every 2 months. I will take at least half a day off completely from work every week. I will use my Passion planner for self reflection and to write how I am feeling at the end of every month.

1)I have it written down here but also in my Passion Planner.
2)It is SMART. It is a specific goal – nails, time out, massages will also contribute to better self care.
It is measurable – although qualitative, writing down how I am feeling will give me a good basis as to how I am getting on.
It is achievable – I definitely have the time and resources.
It is relevant – I know that looking after myself makes me a happier and better person which can only benefit me going forwards.
It is time framed – I will spend time at the end of every month reflecting. I have stated how often I am going to schedule time off, and have appointments.

3) My why is that I know self care is crucial to self development. If you are not taking good care of yourself then how can you help other people? Especially in my job it is so so important to be feeling in peak condition.

4) I will be accountable to my family, friends, clients and readers. But I will also be accountable to Katie and Christian who I will be making my appointments with! 🙂

Venice Beach, LA

That is just a couple of my goals, but I hope you are able to see how I have structured them. I encourage you to do the same. Take a bit of time, sit down with a blank sheet of paper and a pen and come up with your own personal goals and resolutions for 2017!

Let me know how you get on!

Love Abi xxxx

PS See you tomorrow!

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